Principles Will not Fix Your Marriage

"Principles will not fix your marriage. Christ alone is the healer...Jesus is either in our midst, or He is not. Jesus is either the healer, or He is not. Reforming marriage requires more than just a few principles, a weekend getaway, and some flowers...It requires more than this. It requires Christ to be at the center of your life, husband...There is an inseparable connection: Christian marriage and the gospel are tied in a bond that cannot be broken. Why? Because marriage is to reflect the relationship between Christ and the church and Jesus is the only one who can heal married couples so that they can live together as heirs of the grace of life... [Peter] offers Jesus Christ to us as the only Savior and Lord of marriage...Let me tell you something. God doesn't heal marriage, Jesus doesn't heal marriage, so you can have a better marriage. He heals marriages so that He can show that there is a King in Zion and to give a testimony to the watching eyes of the world that he is the healer of His people, a Savior, not of words, not of platitudes, but of power, ready to save and heal all who earnestly confess their sins, face their diseased conditions and look to Him as their only Judge, their only lawgiver, their only King and say, 'Lord, You alone can save me.'" Chris Strevel - Christ the Lord and Savior of Marriage 

John Brown Finds a Wife

The mid-1680s is remembered as the Killing Time in Scotland. Royal regiments martyred Scottish Presbyterians at will. Despite the danger, Presbyterian John Brown fell in love with Isabell Weir. He proposed to her, but warned that he would one day seal his testimony with blood. Isabell replied, “If it be so, I will be your comfort. The Lord has promised me grace.” They were married in a secret glen by the outlawed minister, Alexander Peden. “These witnesses of your vows,” said Peden, beginning the illegal ceremony, “have come at risk of their lives to hear God’s word and his ordinance of marriage.” The vows were spoken, then Peden drew Isabell aside, saying, “You have got a good husband. Keep linen for a winding-sheet beside you; for in a day when you least expect it, thy master shall be taken.”

The Brown home soon included two children. It was happy, filled with prayer and godly conversation. Fugitive preachers were hidden and cared for there. But on May 1, 1685 John rose at dawn, singing Psalm 27, to find the house surrounded by soldiers. The family filed onto the lawn. The commander, Claverhouse, shouted to John, “Go to your prayers; you shall immediately die.” Kneeling, John prayed earnestly for his wife, pregnant again, and for his children. Then he rose, embraced Isabell, and said, “The day is come of which I told you when I first proposed to you.”

“Indeed, John. If it must be so, I can willingly part with you.”

“This is all I desire,” replied John. “I have no more to do but to die.” He kissed his children, then Claverhouse ordered his men to shoot. The soldiers hesitated. Snatching a pistol, Claverhouse placed it to John’s head and blew out his brains. “What thinkest thou of thy husband now, woman?” he snarled. Isabell, fixing Claverhouse in her gaze, told him she had never been so proud of him. Claverhouse mounted his horse and sped away, troops in tow. Isabell tied John’s head in a napkin and sat on the ground weeping with her children until friends arrived to comfort them.

Armies may surround me, but I won’t be afraid;
War may break out, but I will trust you.
I ask only one thing, Lord:
Let me live in your house every day of my life
To see how wonderful you are
And to pray in your temple.
— Psalm 27:3,4

Morgan, Robert J.: On This Day : 265 Amazing and Inspiring Stories About Saints, Martyrs & Heroes. electronic ed. Nashville : Thomas Nelson Publishers, 2000, c1997, S. May 1